Outside the Blur

Happiness is just a self-imposed state of mind. My happiness does not depend on the others. It comes directly from within me.

Recently I discovered that there is a direct relationship between our Interior (subjective, spiritual or personal) World and the Exterior (objective or physical) World. What does this means ?

This means that through our Inner World we can model, influence and change the Exterior World. This is the characteristic of a Strong Spirit.

The majority of people believe that the exterior world influence directly our inner world, and in some way this is what it happens now. The exterior world directly changes the majority of people. It changes behaviors, attitudes, thoughts, emotions, feelings, reactions and everything in you. BUT ONLY, and only if you allow this to happen. But this can be changed. It must be reversed.

Do you know what is the difference between a great man and the common people ? Let’s ask ourselves why Buddha, Jesus, Aristotle, Plato, Einstein and other great people are so well known and why they influenced the world to be as we know it today ?

This is not difficult to respond. Because their inner world was so strong that it modified the exterior world. Yes, they were smart, cultivated, leaders at their times and they had many qualities. There are lots of people very intelligent and so talented, geniuses which pass away without even being known for something. Maybe in some restrained circles ? It is not sufficient to have a known quality. Those great people consciously  or unconsciously projected their inner world to the outer world.

But how this is possible ? Why only few achieve this ? Let’s say that we don’t want to be world-wide known. Let’s say that we want only to accomplish things and to have a life of richness, prosperity and happiness. The secret is not far from us. The secret is within us. You must simply cultivate you a strong spirit. You must participate actively everyday and continuously to build your inner world, your spirit.

First, it begins with the foundations. Learn principles of life, learn something that you like, whatever you like. Action as this is already done. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed. Don’t panic if you mistake or if you fail. Everybody fails. Know people and learn things from anyone you meet. Everybody has something special from whom you have something to learn. Work and accomplish things.

Do you wish something ? What you exactly wish ? Everybody wish something. Make realistic goals and plans and follow them. If you fail, try again and again. Failure is just a lesson, nothing more.

Don’t fear! Fear is the killer of success, happiness and good in life. I don’t want to tell you how many chances you loose everyday if you are afraid of something. If you have fear of something, confront with it. You will see that as soon as you are face to face with the object of your fear, it will miraculously vanish as it never was. Because fear is a negative state of mind which is making a virtual reality. But only within you. You must be positive.

Be positive ! Never judge the others if this is not regarding you. Let the others be as they are. Don’t waste energy trying to change them and spend more time working with you. Changing you, being positive will have a greater effect to the others. Because there is an entire world of emotions and thoughts which others can perceive consciously or unconsciously from you. If you think bad, bad things will happen to you. If you think good, good things will happen. Why is like that ? Because energy can effect matter. In physics, matter is just a solid state of the energy. The positive energies will attire positive energies which are having a superior energy, higher frequencies. Negative energies will have a low energy and lower frequencies. They are not compatible one with the other.

If you have a superior energy, you can’t be touched by lower energies. It will be like small trepidation to you. It will deflect by itself. So being positive means that you will have a state o mind in which negative feelings are not present. And this depends entirely on you because this state comes from your inner world.

Rest !  Find time for yourself and spend time only with you. Don’t be afraid to be alone. You are born alone, you will die alone. You can’t change this, whatsoever friends, family and lovers you have. They can give you a certain amount of emotional comfort, but the difficult job is done always by you. So, don’t be afraid to spend time alone and thinking about you, make order in your own thoughts.

Be calm and know every piece of you through actions, thoughts, emotions and other people.

In effect, you must do things of common sense. Be equilibrious in everything, don’t be crazy only to show others what a “DIAMANT” of a man you are. It may be interesting for a while and this can give you some satisfaction of short time. But this quickly disappears and you must do another craziness to gain another appreciation. Finally, you will find that you did things to impress others but this means nothing to you. You simply lost precious time.

Always try to impress yourself, in your way. Don’t do things just to please somebody. Do things because you feel from your heart to do them! It is YOU which matters. Others are others, let them be as they are. For your inner world this is only about you. If you are in an active relationship with others the center of your attention must be to them but in relation to you. Find things at them which correspond to you.

You are another human being among the billions others. Don’t think that you are more important than the garbage cleaner even if you are the president of the United States. This is only a simple circumstance of life what you or someone else is as a social position. Don’t think that you are superior to somebody but neither inferior. Our soul, spirit are the same. More than that, same cells, organs and bodies are building us. We are the same, we all die. What it separate us are only beliefs, better saying miss beliefs and misconceptions.

OK. So let’s return to the main title and question we posed at the beginning. How is that our interior world can model the exterior world and not vice versa ?

Because…The world as we see it and perceive it is just a projection of our thoughts, feelings and spirit which lie and reside inside us. We are making the world. Jesus said in (Mathew 5:13-15) : “You are the salt of the Earth. But if the salt looses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again ? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.” I think this is quite about what I tried to wrote here. So…  The exterior world is a direct result of our interior world. And you must do all you can to BE POSITIVE. And slightly and slowly you will see that all the world around you will be positive. Because positive attire positive.

Capisci ?

How to be authentic without renouncing to your life ? It’s just another thought that captured my focus.

Just another thoughts that came into my mind.

We are a product of our society, of the cultural environment, of the politic world that we are sustaining and we are just a product of everything we consume. WE ARE NO LONGER FREE !!!

We are trapped inside this world we created ourselves, where we imposed for every single dammed thing : A RULE. A LAW

There are so many rules for everything that we have special people, in every field that we may know which main occupation is to establish laws and rules. They do only that. They learn what’s the law for that particular field of activity. So just to mention a few fields where there are special prepared people in this matters : Civil Rights, Corporate and Security Laws, Criminal Law, Education Law, Employment and Labor Law, etc…etc. You can see them all at lsac.org.

So what’s the point here? We created this world to better live in. But now we are introducing rules and rules and laws and rules and laws and another rules and so on…over and over again. We can’t number them because we lost the number. We have so many that limit ourselves TO NOT DO SOMETHING that at a certain point you are asking yourself : What we are doing here ? Why so many rules ? Why it can’t just be simpler, as simple as possible. Somebody else will come to you and will say : because another guy, before you knew about this, used the fact that there is no reglementation in the filed, exploited that thing and gained money or took advantage from another people or system. And…it’s not fair for the others.

So we live in a society, in a world that we created, we modeled to our needs, to better serve us, …STEP BY STEP, … and I ask myself : “WHAT IS THE ONLY THING I NEED TO BE HAPPY ?”. Because I ask myself. Why I am not happy ?(I speak in the term of everyone, just using the first person). Because I should be happy. I have everything, almost everything, but happiness is for me as far as the Pluton is from Earth. Far far away.

The question is : Why I am not happy ? What is the thing that is blocking me out to be happy?

Well. I am no longer happy because I am not free anymore. I am not free from laws, rules, thoughts, worries, and so on. I am captive of this world that we created. When you are limited, your life fades. Your options, your imagination cease to function as it was. It is just like when you took a savage animal from the jungle and you put him in a cage. The cage represent for us the society which is created by us. And the animal should be happy. Because it receives food every single day, with a perfect timing and in the right quantity. The animal has no worries, no fears that it would not have dinner. It has no fears that another predator will come and feed with it. Yes…all it’s perfect. Why the animal is not happy ? WHY WE ARE NOT HAPPY ?

Do you want to know why ? Really ? Are you sure ? Ok.

We are no longer happy because in the moment you loose your liberty, you loose your life and your happiness. From the moment we are born, we are no longer free. We are prisoners of our own world we just created. With rules, laws, politics, religion and so on. You are teached to listen. Your parents first learn you how to walk, to wash, to speak, to do every single little thing of your life. You trust them because they love you, and you love them because they cared you and they gave you everything you need. You just CAN’T DON’T TRUST YOUR PARENTS. It’s impossible. But with all these precious lessons that they give you from the first breath, they teach things like : religion, politics (and that it’s not mandatory, it’s sufficient to see them in daily life and you see what counts for them), culture, people, another things, views. They make you think like them, and you will think like them, and you’ll be like them,… which is not worse or bad or something else. It’s not that the idea.

The very bad thing here which you are not teached your entire life is : HOW TO THINK FOR YOURSELF. You are teached and raised in the religion you are born and it doesn’t matters if you agree or you are not agree. “Son, we all did that, our fathers and grandfathers did that. And you will do that.” It’s a rule that impose you right away before BEGINNING TO THINK FREE. And you don’t question their authority. They are older and wiser than you and you are small and you still don’t have the capacity to oppose them. THAT’S THE VERY FIRST MOMENT WHEN YOU LOOSE YOUR LIBERTY, YOUR HAPPINESS. Then… everything goes from there. You begin TO BELIEVE…in things that you even don’t know…but you believe them because that’s how you were taught. You just don’t put questions to yourself. You just accept.

Brother,…that’s exactly like the animal from the cage. In the moment we are born we are introduced in a society with rules and laws which must be respected. Otherwise…you’ll be rejected from society and considered a fool, or a heretic or worse. They’ll hunt you down, try to introduce you back in the system.

You are filled…even from the first moment with a mentality, with presumptions and with things that others established before you, not letting you even to question something. The things are definitive, you just must accept them and live with them. You just don’t even have the term of liberty or happiness. You think you know happiness because society, people, teach you to desire things that THEY THINK THEY ARE GOOD, because they established so in the past. You do them without questioning and you see something : you just don’t realize and you even don’t know how to live….how to be happy.

But, I say to you something. Nothing is impossible. At first you must put you questions and this is the first step in making your life happier. Putting yourself questions means that you begun TO THINK. To no longer believe WHAT IS GOD, WHAT IS RELIGION, WHAT IS SOCIETY, …things that were told you all your life and you took them as they told you…EXCEPT THAT IT WAS THEIR PERSPECTIVE.

I don’t want NOBODY to tell me what to do with my life !! Yes, I would request sometimes advices, guidelines, perspectives but I will not follow anyone, anywhere, anytime. I will be UNIQUE, I will be myself, I will judge things, I will gain my own views, perceptions. I will make own decisions and I will have own joys.

To be happy, to be free means to have your own perspective, your own thoughts, your own liberty, own religion and desires. We…people…we are unique. There is no man like another…never was…and there will never be. We are different…so different in thoughts, emotions, feelings, joys, preoccupations. We have so many in common of course…but we aren’t identical. We are not CLONES. We are DIFFERENT.

Society makes you just a product. And in time, you don’t see that. But you become a product. A sheep. Just to your born, it is given you an ID (a Numerical Person Code to my country), then at 14 it is given you another ID , and with every Organization you enter it is given you another and another and another. YOU HAVE SO MANY IDENTITIES THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER YOU.

From the perspective of the society you are just a product, you are not different from the rest. You are just like somebody else. That’s how the society works. They integrates people, with common preoccupations and common habits. Society gather people, and people are safer in there. But…if you are not careful YOU’LL LOOSE YOUR OWN PERSPECTIVE,  your way of seeing things, your way and your capacity of analyzing and judging. AND THAT’S AGAIN WHEN YOU LOOSE YOUR LIBERTY, YOUR HAPPINESS.

I think that everyone can live authentically, having own ideas, having own perspective, and being in the same time a part of our society. But…you must be careful with EVERYTHING, you must be CONSCIOUS and not let the wave take you. Filter everything with your rational. Don’t believe in things that people say to you and always ask more and more opinions if you are interested to know something and you just can’t have access to that thing. People are seeing things and when they are telling them they change something. The things are not always exactly what they said. Because the human brain is not a hard disk, is not precise. Human brain works with chemical patterns related to emotions, and the emotions are felt differently by each individual. That’s why each individual will have a slightly different story about an event. THIS MEANS THAT EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING IS HAVING AN UNIQUE STORY.

So…YOU ARE UNIQUE.

Being a part of our society is a compromise for our existence. And the compromise for the existence means sometimes to loose your liberty and to loose your happiness. At least apparently. But you can live your own life …IF…IF :

-YOU ARE NOT A PRISONER OF OTHER’S THOUGHTS

-YOU ARE NOT PREJUDGING ON SOMEONE’S BELIEFS

-YOU MUST KNOW THAT NOBODY CAN’T TAKE YOUR OWN AND INNER UNIVERSE

-YOU ARE UNIQUE

-SOCIETY IS JUST SOMETHING THAT GATHER PEOPLE TOGETHER AND MAKES US LIVE IN COMFORT

-LIFE IN SOCIETY IS JUST A COMPROMISE TO SUSTAIN OUR PHYSICAL BODIES AND HAVE A MINIMUM COMFORT

-YOUR TRUE LIFE LIES INTO YOURSELF AND YOU MUST BE AWARE THAT AN ENTIRE UNIVERSE IS WITHIN YOU

-AND THE MOST IMPORTANT THING : YOU MUST NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.

-DO WHAT YOU LIKE, ENJOY WHAT YOU WANT, BE WHAT YOU WANT, DON’T HESITATE TO GO FURTHER INTO YOUR LIFE IF YOU ARE NOT CONTENT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT

-NEVER REGRET THE MISTAKES THAT YOU DID IN YOUR LIFE AND THAT CAME FROM YOUR OWN DECISIONS AND JUDGEMENT

-NEVER BE AFRAID OF FAILURES, GO ON